I got grief swamped and trapped crying with the car door open. It took a good couple of minutes to break from the paralysis. I started walking then heard my name. It was a former colleague. We kvetched about the insane bullshit we faced and then I found out what she did now and that I could help.If helped re-focus; that the best way to defeat the past is to win the present. I can't think of a better fuck you than that.WFTW.